I'm 41 and Am Finally Prioritizing My Beauty Sleep—Here's My A+ Product Lineup

When I was in my early 20s, I used to easily pull all-nighters. Not because I was up late cramming for exams or anything, but because I was dancing in an abandoned warehouse until sunrise. (Yes, I was a raver.) Sometimes, I’d even have to work my retail job the next day. Now that I’m in my 40s (still a shock), I can’t imagine how I was able to go entire nights without a good night’s rest. Sleep is now something that I’m really trying to prioritize in my life. Insufficient sleep can contribute to a wide range of pretty serious mental and physical health problems, such as depression and anxiety; heart disease, high blood pressure, and strokes; and cognitive issues such as lower alertness and focus. And I haven’t even gotten to the beauty-related aspects yet. 

According to Francisco Tausk, MD, a psychodermatologist and advisor to Loum, scientific studies have shown that a lack of adequate sleep results in an increase in inflammation, acceleration of the signs of aging such as wrinkles, decreased recovery from the effects of UV damage, impairment of the integrity of the skin, and even "impaired facial appearance to others,” which I can only assume are in reference to the designer bags under my eyes that no filter is a match for! Clearly, if anything, my vanity is at risk without proper shut-eye.

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"We have to understand that the skin is an immune organ that maintains the homeostasis (balance) of our bodies,” explains Tausk. "In addition to the specific skin cells, it contains numerous other cells that regulate inflammation, immunity, cancers, and infections. During sleep, not only do our brains regenerate and restore balance, but so does every organ, including, of course, the skin. In addition, sleep allows us to counteract the effects of inflammation and infections. So we find that sleep helps repair the damage that occurs to the skin by improving blood circulation, counteracting external stressors, and maintaining youthfulness.”

I like having a clear, set goal, so I figured I should aim for a certain amount of sleep. All of our lives, we’ve heard that eight hours is the magic number. So is that what I, a young 41-year-old woman, should aim for? Apparently, no. "It doesn’t really work that way. Sleep is much more of a personal situation,” says Michael Breus, PhD, the clinical psychologist and ​​board-certified sleep specialist known as "The Sleep Doctor. He says that he goes to bed at midnight and wakes up at 6:15 every day without an alarm, but his wife goes to bed at 11 and wakes up at seven. "It’s very difficult to come up with a number that can generalize across everyone, but what we could do is tell people that when you wake up and you feel refreshed, that is more than likely the amount of sleep that’s best for you,” he explains. (My theory is nine hours is my personal magic number, but I have to experiment with it more.)

Overall, you want to wake up at the exact same time every single day. Apparently, that’s a more important factor for keeping your circadian rhythm in line than going to bed at the same time every day. Breus recommends using a sleep tracker, like the Oura Ringwhich he says is the most accurate one on the market—to figure out the length of your sleep cycle. "If you really want to understand what beauty sleep is, it’s actually stages three and four of sleep, which is where we get the largest bolus of growth hormone, and that’s really what actually physically restores us,” he adds. Knowing that, I do not understand how Dolly Parton can be her amazing self while operating on only three to five hours of sleep, but I guess that really proves Breus is right when he says sleep is personal! 

I believe that achieving optimal sleep is going to require a holistic overhaul of my entire life—eating foods that make me feel good (if you’ve ever gone to sleep with intense stomach aches, you know that’s the truth), meditating, getting enough exercise, and probably a whole lot of other things! But there are also things I can do with my home, like preparing my bedroom so it’s actually a haven for sleep and not turning my bed into a makeshift workplace where I sit with my laptop. While I plan on painting the walls so they aren’t blinding white and putting up better blackout curtains, the first thing I wanted to do was get a new bed. I asked Thomas Tozer, DC, a chiropractor at Imperium Chiropractic in Wisconsin, what someone should look for when choosing a mattress to help with their sleep hygiene. "The biggest thing that buyers should look for in a mattress is quality,” he says. "There are a large variety of choices out there, and trying to get by cheaply typically ends up being a bad choice. He also says to consider the many factors that come into play when choosing a mattress, like body type, health issues (arthritis, sleep apnea, circulatory issues, etc.), your partner’s needs, and price range. Tozer also recommends that people research the different types and firmness of mattresses. He says to consider getting a mattress that is on the firmer side because you can always make a mattress softer by adding a mattress topper (something I would end up learning later). 

I’m thoroughly convinced better sleep habits will greatly improve my life in all aspects, but it hasn’t been easy getting to where I want to be. I tend to be able to write best late at night (like I am right now), there’s the phone/social media habit that we all have, and there’s the whole issue of "coronasomnia.” My stress and anxiety have been on one these past three years. Plus, I had to deal with the heartbreak of my family dog passing away last year, so I’d often find myself tossing and turning all night or laying awake. I’ve been slowly making changes and trying things out here and there, but I am dedicated to figuring this out. I want to be a sleep queen! 

Ahead, you’ll find all the things I’m swearing by to get my beauty (and mental and physical health and everything else) sleep.

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Marie Lodi
Freelance Beauty and Fashion Writer/Editor

Marie has covered beauty, fashion, and lifestyle for almost 15 years. She contributes to the beauty section here at Who What Wear. Previously, she was the Looks Editor for Bust Magazine, built the beauty vertical at HelloGiggles as its beauty editor, and was a founding staff writer at Rookie mag, giving fashion advice to teens. Her bylines have appeared in The Cut, Allure, Glamour, The Hollywood Reporter, and more. She was born and raised in Southern California and is based in L.A. Marie is a self-proclaimed costume design nerd and a co-host of Makeover Montage, a podcast about fashion in film and costume design. You'll see her writing about her beauty obsessions: red lipstick, winged eyeliner, pink hair, nail art, and skincare for people over 40. When she's not working, she's playing with her dog, Gnocchi, and writing her style newsletter, Overdressed.