Over time, I've stopped weighing myself, and I have let go of the "good" and "bad" food lists. I was so afraid that letting go of the rules and calorie counting would mean losing control of my body entirely. What I actually found to be true was that my body was finally able to relax, and it barely changed at all.
I think it's important to worry less about the food philosophy of others and more about the food philosophy that will work best for your unique body. Below are some questions that helped me define my own food philosophy:
Can I recognize when my body is hungry and full?
What foods do I enjoy eating?
Are there any foods that make me feel physically sick or unwell?
Are there foods that I do or do not eat based on my personal values?
Which foods help me feel clear-headed, energized, and satiated?
I'm so happy to say that in my life diets are OUT, food is back IN, and life feels so much better because of it.