How to Embrace Change When It Feels F*cking Scary



“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.” I remember hearing that phrase long ago, and it has never left my thoughts. We all are aware change is the only constant. However, growth seems to ask more of us. Growth requires us to stay present as we improve our awareness and identity and pursue more for ourselves. Growth is often said to enhance our quality of life—and who doesn’t want that?

It’s still a funny thing, though, and something I only feel or value in retrospect. It’s sort of happening when you’re not looking. Then there’s a moment of reflection where you realize how far you’ve come, how differently you might see or think, and what a maturing of the spirit or self can really feel like. Still, growth is not a passive experience, and we have to do a few things to really help ourselves grow. Some of these things also parallel change, and change is often a part of growth.

Below are some steps for leaning into change, embracing it, and developing a growth mindset that can help you flourish.