"First, healthy communication means making communication a priority," O'Neill says. "Second, healthy communication means using opportunities for face-to-face communication instead of via text or via call. Third, healthy communication involves talking about what's working in the relationship and what's not working. And last, healthy communication means being okay with the idea of being vulnerable and sharing your needs within the relationship."
You should also feel like you are able to openly discuss your feelings, are actively checking in with each other, and are figuring out how you can meet each other's needs, DiLeonardo adds. "Being proactive in communication can also be really helpful," she says. "Outside of discussing the day-to-day, finding time to check in on a deeper level is very valuable. Some people do this as a date night, and others treat it more as a meeting to provide space for meaningful conversation that we sometimes are unable to have in our busy daily lives."