4 "Taboo" Sex Topics All Women Should Be Talking About (But Aren't)



I recently attended a dinner in Los Angeles hosted by the brand Lola, a female-founded line of organic, locally sourced, gynecologist-approved reproductive care products from tampons to condoms. The dinner was in celebration of the line's new Sexual Wellness Kit, including the Sex by Lola collection (lube, post-play cleansing wipes, and condoms), but this didn't feel like your typical Hollywood brand event.  Surrounded by an intimate and eclectic guest list featuring no more than 20 fascinating women from all different backgrounds and careers (I sat across from a book illustrator and in between a model and an entrepreneur), we gathered around a rustic table in a secret room above L.A.'s hip Sqirl restaurant, sharing family-style arugula salads and couscous, chatting about our most intimate sexual experiences. Lola's founders and marketing director had prepared some thought-starters to engage their guests, all perfect strangers, in these totally open and honest, but not at all scandalized, conversations about everything from how we orgasm (and how we figured that out) to period sex to lube to whether or not we'd ever had (or would consider having) a threesome. I had scarcely been this candid with some of my closest friends, but somehow in this warmly lighted loft over shared plates, saying the word clit felt about as comfortable as saying "pass the rolls."

This dinner was a microcosm of what has been Lola's ultimate goal since launching in 2015: to help women feel more relaxed talking out loud about their sexual health and pleasure. "Society’s decades-long stigma around reproductive health has disproportionately impacted women and thus the way they talk (or don’t talk) about their sexual health," explains Lola co-founder Alex Friedman. "Companies have historically marketed sex products toward men and their desires in such a way that women don't always feel they have agency in talking about or advocating for themselves when it comes to their sexual health products, even though products such as condoms are used by two people, not just one." Often, these same companies also push products that contain mystery ingredients and unnatural additives. That, combined with the taboo around this topic, "has contributed to a lack of understanding about and demand for transparency about what we’re putting in and on our bodies," says Friedman. Sex by Lola's three products list openly all of their ingredients and contain no parabens, GMOs, or synthetic fragrances. The condoms are made with cornstarch powder and locally sourced, medical-grade silicone oil. The lube is a hypoallergenic water-based formula made with organic aloe leaf juice, and the wipes contain bamboo and water for natural cleansing and pH balance. 

Transparency, related to both what goes into our products and how women communicate about sex, is what Lola hopes to bring to the reproductive health market. "Providing women with the information and resources they need to feel confident and make informed decisions about their reproductive health is essential," Friedman continues. "And frankly, [it] should be the standard that all brands strive to achieve. We are committed to transforming, both from an industry perspective and culturally, how we all approach our health and well-being."